Raising a child with autism comes with a lot of responsibility and fears. There is always a sense of doubt in the form questions like “Am I doing enough for my child”, “Is my child able to know what makes him special”, “Is my child independent”. Optimism and a strong will do not come out of the blue or aren’t something which can be imbibed only through constant practice. It is only after one win over the concerned fears and apprehensions that one becomes an evolved being. Something similar is applicable to the parents of the autistic children. They are fraught with immense strength and perseverance. However, they do have their own set of fears which are justified in themselves. Some of these doubts are as follows:
1. The fear of not being able to accept the autistic condition: Parenthood is about a sense of fulfillment. However, when it comes to the child having autism, the aspect of fulfillment becomes a complex affair. Here, the fulfillment is just not limited to the kind of values which are to be given to the child but to imbibe acceptability regarding the specially abled condition both on the front of the parents and how they help their wards to accept the disability.
2. The fear of insufficiency: There is always a feeling of “Am I doing enough for my child?” Autism characterizes problems with social skills, repetitive behaviours, speech and nonverbal communication. In such cases, the children need added care. This constant fear is justified as it is this very feeling, if channelized, can help such parents to become understanding beings.
3. The fear of the child’s adulthood: It is comparatively easier to look after the child’s needs until the age is less. Entry into adulthood is the beginning of the phase when the children enter into society on their terms. An autistic child has to face a lot of challenges of being differently abled which might have an impact at the psychic level. This fear constantly troubles the parents.
4. The fear of Child’s attitude towards Parents: There is an apprehension in the minds of the parents if their children can actually understand as to how much they love them or whether they will mistake love with sympathy.
5. The fear of Autism being an incurable disorder: Autism does not have any treatment. It can only be regulated through therapies and counselling. This, in itself, is needs to be accepted and accordingly dealt with. It is a lifetime disorder.
If you’re the parent of a child with autism, these fears are justified and should be accepted so that you can bring up your autistic child in the best possible manner keeping in mind all kinds of complications. The best thing is to face the reality with awareness and not escape it through dejection.